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  R esilience was  introduced into the English language in the early 17th Century from the Latin verb resilire, meaning to rebound or recoil Value   origins from  Latin valēre meaning to be strong, be worth Values provide us insight to what are the reasons behind the decisions we have made through our lives. For example, I Divya Srivastava, the coach of this whole program, have the core values of Serve, Inspiration and Growth.(I deduced them through a scientific framework) And since I know these values now, it is easy for me to make decisions in alignment with my values. Without discovering my core values I was lost, disoriented and was confused on which path to take. My core values keep me in peace and emotionally fulfilled. There are other values which support your core values. We do that in order for smoother transitions in life and work. Such a value is Resilience. Dr Ginsburg, child paediatrician and human development expert, proposes that there are 7 integral a...

There are certain values that lie in the core of us. My personal core values are Serve Grow and Inspire. There are other values which helps us fit into society. Like- Respect elders, Be nice, Honesty, Education, Dignity, Quality of Life, etc. Another set of values to keep a balance between both.  One of those values is Resilience.  Read on to know what I mean by this. While growing up, we adopt the values of the society such as 'respecting elders, be a good student, be honest, agree with what friends are saying, stay with the herd or you will get hurt' These are some of the (un)spoken values we adopt. At one time or other, society values or the values of the home we're part of- may make us unhappy. This is when we start looking out of alternatives. This is when we feel like we do not belong. We start doing things secretly to be ourselves. We stay up at night because only then we can be ourselves. The value we seek is happiness and safety to be ourselves.  For example...

 An outcome would be, to earn a crore rupees in the next year. A goal would be the idea to work upon which will get you that outcome, for example, to make a course and sell it to a crore people. Many people do not understand the difference between these two and hence end up only having an outcome in mind. A goal is the way to achieve that outcome you desire.  Goal is action oriented and something you deliver to the world in form of an idea or a product or a service. Any outcome you desire is an output of give and take. You can not expect an outcome if you do not deliver something. Find that something within you and unlock your potential. Create it into a service or a product or should I say an asset. Wrap it in a brilliant deal that no one can deny. Once you give that to the world, the world will bring you your desired outcome. You need steps? 1. Write down what do you desire in life. This sets the outcome. (For example, I want to earn a million) 2. Make an extensive list of w...

Have I become too negative? Noticing myself only recently and I realize I frustrate my husband very easily. He tells me, the first sentence I utter, from the observation I make of anything is in the negative tone. Several thoughts flood my mind, such as, why am I like this. Why am I so miserable. Why am I so stupid... I want to die. Well... more negativity. I coach and train people for a living and I teach them to find the silver lining in every situation, which, I am struggling myself with; to be a healer and a positive person. Am I? I don't even remember when did I start behaving like this. I do not remember when did I start to see the world so negatively and when in the world did I start to want to die. Now that I have noticed it, I want to feel better and be better; for myself and my clients. I guess, for now, I will let my negative thoughts and negative observations be and start all over again; to focus on uttering only when I have something good to say about myself and other...

I coach individuals to help them find dreams in their eyes, clarity in their minds and love in their hearts. I am a certified Resilience Coach, Certified NLP Practitioner, Professional Listner. I am also a Dale Carnegie Certified Trainer. I have a gift. A gift of sensitivity. A gift to serve humanity. With this gift I can help those in need to be seen and heard and guided. I have more information to process than others about my environment and about people around me.   With every gift comes vulnerability. Vulnerability to the negativity as equally to the positivity. The profound love I feel for everything around me, at times turns into darkness for myself, because, one can not be present without another. I am constantly working on myself to serve better. I am grounding myself. Through childhood and my teens, I have suffered not being able to express myself, even though I had vision of talking infront of large audience and influencing humanity to a better life. Specially in difficul...

 I AM I am Love The more words I use to explain ‘I am’, the less its meaning become.  I am on this planet to help people evolve spiritually and emotionally to understand ‘I am’ and come to their full potential. I am here for them to listen to themselves. I am here to help connect them to their true selves. I am here to teach people that all that we are, are results of ‘I am’ and ‘I am’ is a result of ‘Love’.  We are all giant balls of love, underestimating the power within and overestimating the power beyond. Meditate if you truly desire to know what is the meaning of ‘I am’. That the true way to connect to your higher self. Not the only way though.  My best work is inspired by my higher self. I give credit of my success to my higher self. It gave me the right idea at the right time. It gave me the right understanding at the right time. It gave me the right solution at the right time. It gave me the right feelings at the right time. For I decided to listen as soon as...

 I was wondering what and when was the best conversation of your life? Did it include listening? Did it include curiosity and questions? Was it full of awe? Did the conversation go deep? Did you lose track of time?  If you can’t remember, then you probably haven’t had such a conversation yet. And through this blog, I am giving you, an opportunity to have the best conversation of your life. If you have experienced such a conversation, then this an opportunity to feel good about it, and become aware, so that each conversation you have from now on is as powerful! Even the ones that seem irrelevant to you at the moment. We all know someone, who just wants someone to listen to him/her. She doesn’t want any solution or any inputs. She just wants to be heard. I was curious, is it your partner? Is it your parent? Is it your child? Is it a friend? A colleague? It started similarly for me. I wanted to be heard but while everyone else was talking, I felt lost and unheard. That’s when dec...

Have you ever thought about how we define beauty? How does the movie industry or social media industry creates and upgrades beauty standards over time? Or even how we find someone beautiful or attractive? We keep saying that we should see the inner beauty before judging anyone? What if, we actually do that without being aware of it? How many of us found Gerald Butler attractive without watching his movie 'PS I Love you'? I did not. I thought he's okay and I did not understand why people kept telling me he is hot. Then I watched this movie, where he loved unconditionally, and his image was created as a beautiful beautiful person, when he was only acting. Now, I would watch anything he's into. Now I find anyone mildly looking like him, attractive. I watched so many women on social media, who were said to be average looking and once they shared their story, they suddenly became this fierce and gorgeous looking women. Looking at that new perception of beauty the people have...

I am grateful for the job I have which pays for my expenses and let's me enjoy what my life and other people have to offer. I am grateful for the roof over my head and for these walls to keep me safe from the heat and rain and cold, a place I can call home and create memories in. I am grateful to my parents to make me self sufficient and provide me with anything and everything possible. I am grateful to their love and care. I am grateful to my siblings to be there for me when I needed them I am grateful for my partner who supports me and loves me. I am grateful to all my gurus to help me learn ways to express my soul and heart. I am grateful for all the love everyone around me is offering.  I am grateful for the wonderful plants in my house and trees outside to make the air perfect to breathe. I am grateful for the air that I breathe. I am grateful for the love that I receive from my everything around me.  I am grateful for my body, a house for my soul. I am grateful for the p...

Being enough does not have a scale. No one has defined being enough and achieved it. Everyone's being enough modifies everyday. So what does it truly mean? What is it, that makes you want to be enough. Are you enough? Enough in terms of resources? Enough in terms of finances? Enough in terms of love? Enough for your family? Enough in terms of beauty? If you weigh yourself with other's scale, you will never be enough. I'm not saying the standard set by the different industries is evil. It is not. It is sheer expression of what they think is beautiful, and it never means you're not. You are a one hundred percent beautiful in all possible senses. So how can you become enough? And what makes you 'ENOUGH'? You choose BEing enough, just like you choose how much food is enough in 'your' meal. It is a choice. A decision that you are, no more or no less than others. Being enough is when you stop trying to earn something from the outside and start trusting yoursel...

Love is. Love is creation. Love is when you breathe. Love is when you sleep. Love is when you are.  Love is divine. We are divine beings. We must let love to flow through us to complete its cycle and meet the earth.  Let me explain. If a box contains water in it. How will you know that it contains water? You won't, until the water overflows and you watch it. Similarly, earth and this universe is/ contains love. You will know about its love once it overflows. And the love pours out in form of creation and life. And this very life, is made out of love. Similarly, this earth is made out of love from this Universe. Everything in this world is created from love.We don't know how many such universes are there, but ours is made out of love. Just like the love inside a composer make him/ her create music. When you love another person, where do you feel love? Is it inside the other person? Is it between the both of you? No. It is inside you. You have let him trigger the love inside You...

We often underestimate our minds, we forget that we are more than our bodies. I read in the book, Think and Grow Rich by Oliver Napoleon Hill, that we have access to any and every secret we might want to discover, through our subconscious mind. The question arises- how! But first let us discuss what is Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Quoting from the site  https://neurolinguisticprogramming.com/  "Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is defined as the study of the structure of subjective experience and what can be calculated from that and is predicated upon the belief that all behavior has structure." In my words, NLP adds structure to our perception of this world. It provides us models, tools and techniques to make the best use of our individual minds and to train it to success. NLP shows how the mind works to make the most out of it, whether you want to lead a simple life or become a millionaire or  even both. For instance, "Sleep over it" is not just a phrase...

When I say increasing income, I mean in simple terms, how to make a mindset to generate more income and over time gaining financial freedom. More money comes to you when you create another path for it to flow from. If you keep your money in your account, you'll spend it on irrelevant things. Money has to keep flowing either way, I can't be stagnant. You will have to put your money to work for you. So, if you want to increase the amount of money that comes to you, first you will have to plan on where you want it to go, what will you do with the extra income. For example, before you get an expected increment, you will have to create a need for it. Either to invest it somewhere, or to spend it on material. Either way you'll have to create a path for it to flow to. For example, when you want more water in your house, you will have to get a new pipeline from the source to your house and then to somewhere else, to keep it flowing. So think about what's next in your lif...

What does luck mean to you? Is luck a coincidence? Is luck hereditary? Is being lucky important? Is it the only way to be successful? Can you choose luck? Can you get lucky by wearing gemstones? Well, if it answers any of the above, and you must have heard this before, we make our own luck, just as we make our own destiny. Luck is, when we move our butt. When you returned that extra money a person gave you, which years later, he remembered and provided you with the job you have been looking for desperately. Luck is, when you have done the certification which at that time seemed of no use, and years later pays you more than anyone else. Luck is, when you have been kind and everyone else has been kinder to you, because the universe works that way. Luck is, when you randomly talked to the person on the next table and he starts to give you opportunities which you were looking for. Luck is, when you learnt good deed from your parents and replicate them. Luck is, when you have don...

Humankind has evolved to a level where we care about things more than ourselves. We care about the environment, we care about the world, we care about our society. We have become more empathetic towards things around us and things far from us. We start to confuse between what we can and can not control. Things we can not control does not let us sleep. We are for sure better human beings, but with care comes worry and chaos. We start to sabotage our daily life with things we can not control. We need to become proactive instead of reactive. We need a tool to understand the things we worry about and take proactive steps towards it. (To read about being proactive, go here ) Such a tool is Circle of Concern-Circle of Influence. If you see the image below. Imagine the outer circle COC, consists of all the things you care about. It might be from what people say about you (if you care), how government is not taking care of the crimes, fire in nearby building, school, office, bed sheet you...

Being in a job is not as bad as everyone claims it to be. If you're passionate about something which someone already has a business in, why not work with or for them. The thing is, we get it all wrong. Working for someone does not mean you just finish things assigned to you and leave. If you're doing such a job, leave. If you go to your office and look forward to it, then you are doing good. You are bringing something extra to the workplace. Your passion. When you have a passion for something, you don't need motivation to show up everyday. On the other hand, if you have a certain idea which your company isn't providing, you can either suggest it and take over its development. Or quit and start your own firm. But always know the amount of work and consistency it requires for both the choices. Ingredients to Keep it Interesting Being Proactive Proactive is when you act on things you believe in rather than waiting for things to happen. Do not confuse proactive with ...

I suppose you've seen jewelry box? Wooden, silver, ivory jewelry box. All sorts of jewelry boxes. Our body is like that jewelry box and our soul is the jewelry in it. Now both of them are precious, jewelry being more precious and longer lasting. Now you know that your body keeps your soul safe and ready to display the skills of our souls or give us a tool to do something special in life. Now why would you hurt it? When you start thinking of your body as something which belongs to you like any other thing like your pet or your family member, you don't break it. When someone accidentally breaks your jewelry box, you try to fix it with glue and tape and what not. You mend it. Likewise do it with your body. Care for it. You need to fix it, not hurt or cut it like the other person did (who hurt your feelings). It's not like the thought doesn't come to your mind. It does, let's face it. But you love your body more than you would want to hurt it. Your body is the tool to ...

Love is the key, Compassion and Empathy is the way. Divya is the most wonderful soul you’ll meet. She is compassionate and a good listener. She has transformed many lives and helped them expand their horizons. She is always open to change. She helps people find their strength to work for what they want. She is working on bringing change in lives to become the best version of themselves and clear their mental blocks. She believes in keeping the learning curve going upwards. She is capable of being vulnerable and at the same time have complete faith and trust in the higher purpose. You'll find out later in the posts, why this blog is called 'Higher than Us'. She is a certified Resilience Coach, Certified NLP Practitioner and Dale Carnegie certified trainer. She is working on her Emotional Intelligence Certification from Yale. She is coached and trainer by Sat and Siri (Directors of the Alphastars Academy) themselves to be the InnermostShift Coach and NLP Practitioner.  ...