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Resilient Person's guide to Life Struggles -- Part II

 Resilience was introduced into the English language in the early 17th Century from the Latin verb resilire, meaning to rebound or recoil

Value origins from Latin valēre meaning to be strong, be worth

core values higher than us




Values provide us insight to what are the reasons behind the decisions we have made through our lives.

For example, I Divya Srivastava, the coach of this whole program, have the core values of Serve, Inspiration and Growth.(I deduced them through a scientific framework) And since I know these values now, it is easy for me to make decisions in alignment with my values. Without discovering my core values I was lost, disoriented and was confused on which path to take.

My core values keep me in peace and emotionally fulfilled.


There are other values which support your core values. We do that in order for smoother transitions in life and work. Such a value is Resilience.


Dr Ginsburg, child paediatrician and human development expert, proposes that there are 7 integral and interrelated components that make up being resilient – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control.

Building these resources within oneself is one way of creating resilience. It is a muscle which needs work to keep strong.


A lot of times we know what is important to us, our Core Values, but we lack Resilience. When life hits us hard, it want us to become stronger. For example, my value of Serving is useless if I do not have the strength to handle rejection of people who do not want my service. When I do not show resilience, I am unable to follow the path of my Core Values. This applies to all, without an exception!


When we use the compass of our Core Values and the strength of our resilience muscles, there is no mountain we can not climb!


...to be continued

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