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Resilient Person's guide to Life Struggles -- Part I

There are certain values that lie in the core of us. My personal core values are Serve Grow and Inspire.

There are other values which helps us fit into society. Like- Respect elders, Be nice, Honesty, Education, Dignity, Quality of Life, etc.

Another set of values to keep a balance between both. 

One of those values is Resilience. 

Read on to know what I mean by this.

While growing up, we adopt the values of the society such as 'respecting elders, be a good student, be honest, agree with what friends are saying, stay with the herd or you will get hurt' These are some of the (un)spoken values we adopt.

At one time or other, society values or the values of the home we're part of- may make us unhappy. This is when we start looking out of alternatives. This is when we feel like we do not belong. We start doing things secretly to be ourselves. We stay up at night because only then we can be ourselves. The value we seek is happiness and safety to be ourselves. 

For example, in the 90s, it was highly appreciated if the child grows up to be a doctor or an engineer. Which was understandable since it was highly respected and was a stable job with good income. If we see history there was so much trouble with jobs that engineering became even more popular since the demand was increasing and the pay was brilliant.

I myself am an engineer. It was my father's dream to have one of us be a doctor and another be an engineer. He left the 3rd one to fate (just kidding...of course he is studying to be an engineer).

But here I am, found my passion in training and coaching.

I had several ups and downs in my life. A lot of times I could not understand why people are just blindly saying and doing things just because others are. This was making everyone around me so dissatisfied with their lives and their relationships. In my case I chose to be quite than be rebellious or agree to others. This was also leaving me feeling sad and unheard. When I had enough, I found out that I could choose to leave the things which I do not resonate with. I did that. I started making changes in my life.

Even though I was brilliant at my job, I decided to support others find their values and develop them to live a highly fulfilled life.

Till now it has not been easy. It has actually been much much more difficult that I imagined. But I know this is for me. My purpose is bigger than me. And that's why I keep going on this path.

You see, these life struggles are so damn important to steer us towards our life purposes. Hence the need to adopt the value of Resilience.

"Accepting our fate" is not being resilient. It is to decide and choose to change what is not working out for us. To keep moving towards the feeling of fulfilment.

"Life keeps taking us into loops until we choose to change something."

Resilience was introduced into the English language in the early 17th Century from the Latin verb resilire, meaning to rebound or recoil.

...to be continued

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